Finding Balance & Boundaries in a Masculine-Driven World
For decades, my life was dominated by masculine energy—relentless doing, pushing forward, hitting goals, and cramming productivity into every available moment.
From Overdrive to Inner Fulfillment
I embraced the mindset of "I'll make it happen," leading with ego to achieve accolades, milestones, and deadlines. I’d often strive to be a top performer amongst my peer set, competing with myself more than anyone else. Always pushing to do more, to rise higher, to make more money.
Then, something shifted within me. I craved more—not financial gain or additional responsibility, but deeper fulfillment and meaning. I wanted more of what would actually nurture and fill up my soul vs. that which drained it. I wanted my time and energy to go towards positive impact by the masses vs. making large companies more profitable. I wanted to be present - physically AND mentally when I disconnected from work. I wanted to feel less cortisol in my body and instead have a rushing sensation of constant calm.
I began to carve a new path, brick by brick, stone by stone. Prioritizing my wellness practice became essential, ensuring I devoted daily time and energy to a healthy body and mind. With days filled with career and children, I realized the only way to find more time was to wake up earlier.
I adjusted my alarm from 6:30 am to 5:30 am. Initially challenging, it soon felt natural for both body and mind. This change required going to bed earlier, eliminating mindless television or phone scrolling from my nightly routine—a positive exchange from the start.
I started establishing boundaries at work while simultaneously addressing any limiting beliefs and thought patterns that was causing the need for boundaries in the first place.
I embraced the power of “no”. If a meeting was put on my calendar in my off hours, regardless of whether it was a client or my own exec, I’d have the boldness to work with their EAs to find a time that worked for everyone (something the people-pleaser in me wouldn’t have dreamed of doing before).
I began to respect my personal wellness with the same importance as dental hygiene, not feeling the need to defend or explain myself. I began blocking time on my calendar so that I could have large slots of breathing space and time to do work vs. sit in meetings.
I began to remove myself from meetings that I was not needed in - if I wasn’t leading or actively contributing, I either got the action items/highlights from team members or the recap email. I became laser focused on ensuring 80% of my time went towards my top goals and KPIs. I limited myself to 2hrs of meetings, max, on Mondays and Fridays. And I started delegating at home as well - accepting help from my husband, letting go of perfectionism and releasing the need for control.
The result? My work flourished as I was energized, motivated and focused. And my personal life became more connected as I was able to maintain some level of distinction when I “shut off” work. By establishing boundaries and working through internal healing I was able to continue a forward motion vs. the perpetual wheel of survival-mode.
I continued my internal healing to ensure I stayed on course and in the moments where I faltered, I was able to have rapid awareness and reaction in order to “get back on the saddle”, accepting my humanism along the way.
This is how I began to establish a strong foundation in what I call, “The Surface” which is the first phase of my three-phase framework in my signature program, Connect Back to You.
You deserve days that flow with balance and energy. This is your life—live it as you dream it to be.
Take the First Step Towards Better Balance
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